Forgiveness without Forgetting

And Why It's Wise

There’s a phrase we’ve all heard: “Forgive and forget.” It sounds noble, doesn’t it? The idea that true forgiveness comes with a clean slate, free from any memory of the hurt. But the more I’ve sat with that idea, the more I realize how impossible—and how unwise—it is.

Forgiveness can’t erase the past; it can transform how you carry it. Forgetting might …